The subject of Marriage

The subject of marriage comes to mind from time to time and, giving the decision if I was to get married in the coming years how would my financial situation would be for, I don't want to be struggling to much yet, I would like to be with someone whom is mature and stable in a job or career such as myself.  In the company that I am currently working for, I know that there are room for growth so, giving the chance to see what opportunities that are given to me I can state that if I was to get Office Assistant or Store Accountant than that would be fine because I could have a salary that was consistent with some of my monthly bills.   In addition I could add on to my resume when seeking a larger paycheck on what skills I can bring to the workplace that I am currently in or, I can use this experience to work at other places that may need a Store Accountant or an Office Assistant depending on the situation at hand.

One reason marriage has been on my mind is that everyone think its a piece a paper, its more than just a piece of paper because if my partner was to get sick or something would happen I have no say whatsoever.  If the person died I get no type of benefits from that loss or anything because it would go to their family; its was just in the last year that you would get some benefit but, not a whole lot.  I don't see myself entering the so called "Common-law" relationship because its the same as an open marriage and, I do not agree with that decision either for, it allows diseases into the pictures so, that's a big no also.

Being the fact that I am not looking and, all I am getting is a bunch of losers there is no need to rush because I have plenty of time to decide.  I am not worried about starting a family or growing old with somebody because you have women in their 60s, 70s, and 80s getting married for the first time which I think is rather sweet but, there is no need to rush.

My main concerns are the following: Will we be able to have thing prepare for the expected things? Can we have a backup on the expected things that life throws curveballs at us?  Managing money properly even when there are times that are going to be tough for the first year or two. Managing conflicts in a marriage and Surviving the first year of marriage.

Well I have been searching and looking for some answers that will work to find out how I should make myself a better person when it comes to being a potential wife.

That is going to be save for another time because that's something I don't wish to share with right now.

The most part is trying to understand why these men think I am  going to break down and say yes to a common law relationship or an open marriage?

I remember what that Psychologist said on Steve Harvey that women should have more value for themselves and, I agree that I should be one of those that have value because if I don't then who else would value me.   I am going to continue to say no and let them see how long it takes for them to finally realize that no means no.  There are other women out there that are slutty and have no value for themselves so, I wish that they go take them instead of wasting my time, energy and effort.  Oh well that's men for you the less intelligent gender.

The subject of marriage is one that they don't like so, I can hope to sure that someday there will be one rose that is smart enough to come around.