Modesty, where did it go?

Once again I found something that was interesting because I never really pay any attention when it comes to certain male opinions but, for this case it was an exception to the rule; I found this video on google social network which was talking about why are breast so scary.

I was listening to this gentleman on how women should respect themselves instead of degrading themselves which a lot of them are doing more than ever because they are desperate to get a man in their life. Experience has taught me when you are a woman that is modest you get some more respect depending on the individual but,I do agree that people have the right to dress the way they want yet it does not mean I am going to respect them because I go by what was stated in 1 Timothy 2 versus 9 and 10: 9 Likewise, the women should adorn themselves in appropriate dress, with modesty and soundness of mind, not with styles of hair braiding and gold or pearls or very expensive clothing, 10 but in the way that is proper for women professing devotion to God, namely, through good works.

I also am a believer of 1 peter 3 versus 3 & 4 which go on to state :  3 Do not let your adornment be external-the braiding of hair and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothing- 4 but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible adornment of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God.

Furthermore the versus written at Proverbs 11:22: Like a gold ring in the snout of a pig is a beautiful woman who rejects good sense.

Presence does matter because numerous image consultants state that in 15 seconds people judge you based on how a person looks, so when you are not dressed appropriate you are not going to attract the people that you want for many reasons. It is important to keep a list of rules on dress, grooming, and hygiene.

An individual whom is modest is concerned about not needlessly offending others and not drawing undue attention to themselves but, soundness of mind results in discretion or good judgement so, they would display qualities that has balance that results from respect for godly standards which include dressing in an attractive manner but, helps them to be sensible in their appearance and to avoid extravagant styles of dress and grooming.

In addition it also helps keeping people from making unwanted advances towards a person so, if one dresses with modesty and soundness of mind they are not going to be targeted by sexual predators.  In addition not flirting is another options when dealing with sexual predators.

I do not find breast to be offensive but, the way that a person dresses can be at times so, association with those whom follow the media looks can kiss any chance of associating with me goodbye.   I don't approve of such degrading things.

   

Attributions- Internal, External, Stable and Unstable

In the world of Social Psychology attributions are the inferences that we make about the causes of event and behavior of another person, when we make attributions so we can understand our experiences, these strongly influence the way we interact with others.  There are two dimensions of attributions the internal vs. external and the stable vs. unstable, when combining these two dimensions we are able to classify a particular attribution as being internal-stable, internal-unstable, external-stable, or external-unstable.

Internal vs. External.
In an internal attribution we infer any event or a individual's behavior is due to personal factors which goes on the basis of traits, abilities, or feelings; whereas, the external attribution we infer that a person's behavior is due to situational factors.
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For example, If some one is running late for an important interview, if they believe they are late because of their ignorance about the sense of time, they are making an internal attribution but, if they believe that the loss of time happened because they had another person keeping them from getting to their interview on time they are making an external attribution.

Stable vs. Unstable

When we make a stable attribution we infer that an event or behavior is due to stable never changing factors but, when we make an unstable attribution we infer that an event or behavior is due to unstable temporary factors.

For example Maria gets a A on her Political Science term paper, if she makes a attribution the grade to the fact that she always has good luck, she is making a stable attribution. If she attributes the grade to the fact that she did give all her effort and time to study that week, she is making an unstable attribution.

Its very funny when we make these attributions in our life but, its even funnier when we make these types of attributions we never took time to really understand why these things happen and, the factors that lead to the next event in life.

My Inner girlhood is trying to come out!

Its been a while since I had a collection of nail polishes from different products, ranging in different colors, and prices; I remember when I was younger I had every nail polish collection that there was when it came to Sally Hensen but, now I've moved on to the vegan organic variety of nail polish which does not surprise me because I became more aware of the environment.  I knew that it would happen someday and, it did which I am very happy about.

I am not going to boast but, suddenly there is an awaken of my lost girlhood that I am now rediscovering but, it has taken some time for that to happen.  Like I knew that the day would come when I needed to look more girly than ever before, yes its time to make a change for the better rather than for the worst.  Recently there has been a new self discovery about myself because I seem to be less interested in guys that I liked when I was in my teens and, I seem more interested in men that I stated in my younger years that I had no interest with whatsoever.  

I am also have found myself to not like too much rap or hip hop music like I use to but, there are some occasions that I will listen to it but, most of the time I am listening to other genre of music.  When I was younger I would always watch reality television, wrestling and other things that did not mean much but, I have found myself reading a bit more and doing other things with myself because there is nothing new to watch anymore.  Books give you something to talk about anyway so, it makes more sense to read rather than to talk about some form of nonsense so someone else can make money off of the ratings.

I found more ways to experiment with my hair so, I am going to get on with that in the upcoming months.

Its going to be manicures every week followed by pedicures every two weeks, going to the salon to get my hair done every four to six weeks and maybe a facial twice a month.  Yes, it going to be a big year for change so, its not going to be a year of being a tomboy nor being butch.

I hope to dress a little better on days that I am not working but, where is there a time that I am not working?

There are going to be changes and, there are going to be some new things that I probably won't be able to share entirely on the web but, I hope that these new things are experiences that will last a lifetime.

Returning from the beyond

It has been some time since I last posted and, it seems that everything has changed in the last couple of months.  This month is sure to go by quick because its the shortest month in the year but, there have been things that I wanted to learn about myself and, other things that I may not have yet discovered but, now have concerning about my likes and dislikes.

One the basis of gems I found out that there are gems that I like and there are gems that I don't like.  I find myself looking more at Rose Quartz and beautiful pink sapphires which are extremely rare compared to other gems that I have done some research on.

I figured that this new month I would post some pictures and provide some insight into my life as a person rather than a robot that sitting behind the computer.  I sometimes question where it my life heading now since I have been seeking to try out new things and, started meeting a large group of people form different parts of the world.  I also learned that some of the people that I work with I have a different outlook on them because many of them don't take their job seriously and, that is not a good thing especially when it comes to keeping customers happy.  A lot of them rather talk than to do other tasks that is expected of them but, I also have to look at it that I am working with mostly teens and, for them this is only temp until they go off to college or where ever so, its highly unlikely they'll stick around much longer.

I already filled out the application of getting a series of summer jobs to boost my earning potential and, its starting to look like my second chance in life is here but, there is always that route that can make the good seem bad but, right now I am focusing on the good.

I also expanded my taste in music to better understand whom I am as a person and, I find myself listening more to Connell Moss' Because I lover her; I hope that I don't get that song stuck in my head because that will be terrible singing that song during the week especial at work so, let's hope that never happens.

There are so much more that I need to discover about myself so, there is no room for others to hinder those chances; therefore, I will continue to seek other things that I may or may not like which I do not know yet, until then there are some things that are going to stay the same or even change.