Modesty, where did it go?

Once again I found something that was interesting because I never really pay any attention when it comes to certain male opinions but, for this case it was an exception to the rule; I found this video on google social network which was talking about why are breast so scary.

I was listening to this gentleman on how women should respect themselves instead of degrading themselves which a lot of them are doing more than ever because they are desperate to get a man in their life. Experience has taught me when you are a woman that is modest you get some more respect depending on the individual but,I do agree that people have the right to dress the way they want yet it does not mean I am going to respect them because I go by what was stated in 1 Timothy 2 versus 9 and 10: 9 Likewise, the women should adorn themselves in appropriate dress, with modesty and soundness of mind, not with styles of hair braiding and gold or pearls or very expensive clothing, 10 but in the way that is proper for women professing devotion to God, namely, through good works.

I also am a believer of 1 peter 3 versus 3 & 4 which go on to state :  3 Do not let your adornment be external-the braiding of hair and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothing- 4 but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible adornment of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God.

Furthermore the versus written at Proverbs 11:22: Like a gold ring in the snout of a pig is a beautiful woman who rejects good sense.

Presence does matter because numerous image consultants state that in 15 seconds people judge you based on how a person looks, so when you are not dressed appropriate you are not going to attract the people that you want for many reasons. It is important to keep a list of rules on dress, grooming, and hygiene.

An individual whom is modest is concerned about not needlessly offending others and not drawing undue attention to themselves but, soundness of mind results in discretion or good judgement so, they would display qualities that has balance that results from respect for godly standards which include dressing in an attractive manner but, helps them to be sensible in their appearance and to avoid extravagant styles of dress and grooming.

In addition it also helps keeping people from making unwanted advances towards a person so, if one dresses with modesty and soundness of mind they are not going to be targeted by sexual predators.  In addition not flirting is another options when dealing with sexual predators.

I do not find breast to be offensive but, the way that a person dresses can be at times so, association with those whom follow the media looks can kiss any chance of associating with me goodbye.   I don't approve of such degrading things.

   

Attributions- Internal, External, Stable and Unstable

In the world of Social Psychology attributions are the inferences that we make about the causes of event and behavior of another person, when we make attributions so we can understand our experiences, these strongly influence the way we interact with others.  There are two dimensions of attributions the internal vs. external and the stable vs. unstable, when combining these two dimensions we are able to classify a particular attribution as being internal-stable, internal-unstable, external-stable, or external-unstable.

Internal vs. External.
In an internal attribution we infer any event or a individual's behavior is due to personal factors which goes on the basis of traits, abilities, or feelings; whereas, the external attribution we infer that a person's behavior is due to situational factors.
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For example, If some one is running late for an important interview, if they believe they are late because of their ignorance about the sense of time, they are making an internal attribution but, if they believe that the loss of time happened because they had another person keeping them from getting to their interview on time they are making an external attribution.

Stable vs. Unstable

When we make a stable attribution we infer that an event or behavior is due to stable never changing factors but, when we make an unstable attribution we infer that an event or behavior is due to unstable temporary factors.

For example Maria gets a A on her Political Science term paper, if she makes a attribution the grade to the fact that she always has good luck, she is making a stable attribution. If she attributes the grade to the fact that she did give all her effort and time to study that week, she is making an unstable attribution.

Its very funny when we make these attributions in our life but, its even funnier when we make these types of attributions we never took time to really understand why these things happen and, the factors that lead to the next event in life.

My Inner girlhood is trying to come out!

Its been a while since I had a collection of nail polishes from different products, ranging in different colors, and prices; I remember when I was younger I had every nail polish collection that there was when it came to Sally Hensen but, now I've moved on to the vegan organic variety of nail polish which does not surprise me because I became more aware of the environment.  I knew that it would happen someday and, it did which I am very happy about.

I am not going to boast but, suddenly there is an awaken of my lost girlhood that I am now rediscovering but, it has taken some time for that to happen.  Like I knew that the day would come when I needed to look more girly than ever before, yes its time to make a change for the better rather than for the worst.  Recently there has been a new self discovery about myself because I seem to be less interested in guys that I liked when I was in my teens and, I seem more interested in men that I stated in my younger years that I had no interest with whatsoever.  

I am also have found myself to not like too much rap or hip hop music like I use to but, there are some occasions that I will listen to it but, most of the time I am listening to other genre of music.  When I was younger I would always watch reality television, wrestling and other things that did not mean much but, I have found myself reading a bit more and doing other things with myself because there is nothing new to watch anymore.  Books give you something to talk about anyway so, it makes more sense to read rather than to talk about some form of nonsense so someone else can make money off of the ratings.

I found more ways to experiment with my hair so, I am going to get on with that in the upcoming months.

Its going to be manicures every week followed by pedicures every two weeks, going to the salon to get my hair done every four to six weeks and maybe a facial twice a month.  Yes, it going to be a big year for change so, its not going to be a year of being a tomboy nor being butch.

I hope to dress a little better on days that I am not working but, where is there a time that I am not working?

There are going to be changes and, there are going to be some new things that I probably won't be able to share entirely on the web but, I hope that these new things are experiences that will last a lifetime.

Returning from the beyond

It has been some time since I last posted and, it seems that everything has changed in the last couple of months.  This month is sure to go by quick because its the shortest month in the year but, there have been things that I wanted to learn about myself and, other things that I may not have yet discovered but, now have concerning about my likes and dislikes.

One the basis of gems I found out that there are gems that I like and there are gems that I don't like.  I find myself looking more at Rose Quartz and beautiful pink sapphires which are extremely rare compared to other gems that I have done some research on.

I figured that this new month I would post some pictures and provide some insight into my life as a person rather than a robot that sitting behind the computer.  I sometimes question where it my life heading now since I have been seeking to try out new things and, started meeting a large group of people form different parts of the world.  I also learned that some of the people that I work with I have a different outlook on them because many of them don't take their job seriously and, that is not a good thing especially when it comes to keeping customers happy.  A lot of them rather talk than to do other tasks that is expected of them but, I also have to look at it that I am working with mostly teens and, for them this is only temp until they go off to college or where ever so, its highly unlikely they'll stick around much longer.

I already filled out the application of getting a series of summer jobs to boost my earning potential and, its starting to look like my second chance in life is here but, there is always that route that can make the good seem bad but, right now I am focusing on the good.

I also expanded my taste in music to better understand whom I am as a person and, I find myself listening more to Connell Moss' Because I lover her; I hope that I don't get that song stuck in my head because that will be terrible singing that song during the week especial at work so, let's hope that never happens.

There are so much more that I need to discover about myself so, there is no room for others to hinder those chances; therefore, I will continue to seek other things that I may or may not like which I do not know yet, until then there are some things that are going to stay the same or even change.

The Budget talk

Interesting how I stated last week how I am going to make two meals to the maximum yet, I find myself still low in wonga because of my living situation so, I sometimes wonder did spent really teach my anything except since I live in a low income area and, that many people such as myself whom are low income don't get the respect that they deserve; however, being sneaky about certain things does not make it right either for, I could be helpful towards the house but, I feel like I am living with ungrateful people at this point for, they eat everything up in one sitting to only complain that there is nothing to eat.

I sometimes wonder how is it that I can spend $65 on food that last me at least two week but, when my family wants to eat what I cook they go off and start complaining but, they are not doing anything to bring in more money into the house; I can't help but, pity them especially my mother who works seasonal/temp employment because she did make some type of effort to make some type of arrangement so that we could have some sort of food in the house yet, she is now eating everything and complaining. I have been forced to tell her that she should not complain because she should not be eating everything up when she knows there is a limited income; that being stated she should realize that and understand that she was in that situation where she was the only one working and, she had two children take care of.   I am not trying to sound selfish but, what does she expect out of a person whom only makes $7.75 an hour? What does she expect when one person is working anywhere from 12 hours to 22 hours out of the week? What does she want from a one person that is working when it comes to some of the bills?  Is she even being realistic at this point?

A small second part time job of an income of $9 to $10 an hour could make a difference yet, working anywhere from 12 to 24 hours on the weekends will take a toll on my body because I am going to be doing a lot of physical work so, the point is to stay healthy at these time because it starting to look that my family is beginning to take a toll on my stress level.  I might have to do a budget at this time because me keeping up with the food bill for one is bad enough because I can't do this with two people in the house that are not working and, to take on a second job that can make up for one person not working is cool but, someone else needs to start looking for a job.

January is going to be the start date for my second line of employment because that will be the month were everything is fresh and new so, with that being said whatever happened in 2013 stays in 2013; I am already calculating the income expenses for the month of January so far they are not looking too good; I find myself stressing because of my situation plus that fact after January 31 I am going to have to find a third seasonal job in order to lightening the load for a short period of time so, whatever summer job that I can grab I am going to try my best not to lose it because that is another source of income that I can grab.  The Summer job will more than likely be Wait Staff or something to do with baseball because with the way things are now my life seems to go south when money comes up in discussions.  Who is budgeting? No one and, I cannot do all these things because I am not use to having to do them but, I know that I will have to do these things to survive if I should ever live on my own.

The second job that is coming I really am hoping that the $9 will help because it looks so uncertain because the way the family is eating; the eating is what is killing me so, I have been forced into going to the local dollar Store to buy things that no one really likes but, has no choice but, to eat it.  I have found myself spending $47 to $65 dollars in food which is a lot but, when comes to dealing with people whom are now acting like P.O.W. its getting crazy to the point that I think that my mental health is going to go south.

I remember that night when I made those shells and marinara its was crazy that when I went to get some more  the pot was empty then they wanted to complain about the food; I want them to stop complaining because its not going to help the food runs out quicker because we have one person that does not eat like he has some sense.  We have only one regular income coming in and, we have one person who works maybe three times out of the years so, what do you want from the one that is working on the regular part time basis?

New interest on the horizons

I decided to better myself in the lines of art and literature because those are areas of my life that I do find interesting but, I don't want to have to wait on someone to make those decisions for me; I want to express myself the best way possible so, looking on the lines of Studio Art, Fine Art and, Art History will be my start then going on the lines of English Literature will help me out even more because I am curious to see where my mind will take me when it comes to Romance and Renewal in the Elizabethan literature that consisted of writers such as Sir Philip Sidney, Edmund Spenser, Roger Ascham, Richard Hooker, Christopher Marlowe, and William Shakespeare.

The idea came to me while at work because I was thinking of what am I going to do in order to expand my horizons and, I later recall that other books that I have read did open the way for me to go back in that time period to see what life was like; in addition, books gave me something to talk about as well as get information from other people on what books would be helpful as well as what books would not be helpful which was a subject of their opinion.  In addition I figured after I conquer the Romance and Renewal era that Elizabethan literature had to offer at that time period then I could go to the lines of Revenge and Ravishment which is Jacobean literature; this also allows me to read the works of John Webster, Ben Jonson, Francis Beaumont, John Fletcher, Francis Bacon, Robert Burton, John Donne, and of course William Shakespeare.

Since I've mentioned that I wanted to take up a golf caddie job at some of the local golf course, it would be in my best interest to be able to talk to some individuals that are more intelligent than the ones I have been dealing with on the normal basis; basically regular customers whom do not talk with some sense.  In addition my life as a independent woman will take off quicker because there are no men in my life to make me feel less about myself for, I remember on Steve Harvey that he had this Clinical Psychologist whom talked about how young women in college do these things with these men to pay off their college or pay for things that they want.  Looking at that made me realize that I was happy in the situation that I am in now and, that I have maintained my virginity to this point in order to find a man that would be willing to marry me but, it also makes more sense to work hard for the things that I want rather having things handed to me; in the past I would be jealous because many of my peers would boast about what they got but, in turn it was handed to them.

Now looking at the outcome of it having two jobs or three (in some cases) would help me to understanding how much time I put in to have nice things, be able to pay off my loan debt, and not have to file for bankruptcy.  I hope that whatever summer job that I do get as well as whatever seasonal job that I get; my morals will maintain to the highest extent possible because I am not perfect so, there is no need to try to be what I am not. In addition when I do read the fine works of the authors listed above and, surround myself in art works or many artists that present them at the art gallery; I can state that my value is worth more than me acting like a escort or a call girl like it seem some of my fellow female peers are doing.

I am going to sow seeds of good works and, see what happens for the time being; if I get a summer job then that's fine and, if its one of those golf caddie jobs then that's great.  I am going to do my best no matter what summer job I get and, whatever season job that I get because doing your best and keeping an interest never hurts.

Dinner Ideas for the upcoming days of Tuesday and Wednesday

Today I decided that I was going to cook for myself because cooking is a must in these days for, the dollar menu is really not all that healthy and, creating or adding a salad on the menu is a good start.   I found a Broccoli salad recipe to start off with as well as many others so, its going to be something new for me to try since my new years resolution was to eat healthier so, the start of this upcoming week is to make two dinners that are healthy and, can be done with fresh fruit and vegetables; I plan on making a Shrimp & Chicken Parmigiana like one would get in the Italian restaurants so, I am going to try to make my own version of it as well as buy some penne pasta so, that I could make something that will make me feel a sense of accomplishment so, that is going to be a start as well as keeping all the fixings health as well such as making my own garlic bread to go with my dinner as well as the dessert.

The next dinner  I will try to make is a meatloaf because I plan on buying some ground Sirloin (extra Lean) to make a meatloaf and, I am going to use a family recipe that's been handed down yet, I am going to add some ranch into the mix so, that I can see what the outcome of the meatloaf will be instead of using BBQ sauce as normal.  I am going to do a ranch salad which does not have much room to expand for creation so, that another dinner that I am planning but, I might have to do something different with the sides such as making Yukon Gold Whipped Potatoes and, cranberry sauce with port wine.  I might have to add some dinner rolls or yeast rolls into the mix because I do plan on having some carbs though I could use some vegetables so, I might also add some mixed greens in there to be on the safe side.

The cranberry sauce is going to be my first recipe that has to do with a lot of trial and error so, I hope with the budget that I have will help me make a successful first time cranberry sauce dish; all I know is that the cranberry sauce is going to have a mixture of ruby port wine, orange juice and orange zest in the mix to make it a delicious sauce for my dinner.  I hope that nothing unexpected pops up because I am looking forward to seeing what Tuesday and Wednesday dinners are going to turn out.  I am going to hold off on desserts for another time because I think I am going to buy just a plan Cannoli cake so, that its simple as well as the cake works best for both dinners.